Hi my beautifullssss!
Being back at university now and being surrounded by 20 somethings who are constantly getting into relationships, breaking up.. etc. etc. I find myself giving the same advice a lot and therefore thought that I would share this wisdom with you beautiful souls.
Being in your 20’s will mean a lot of maturing, a lot of emotions, a lot of mind changing and confusion and feeling lost and relationships and love are going to depict these transitions, so here is a couple pointers of what you should realise about love in your 20’s:
You Will Fall For a Dickhead
A lot of us won’t have figured out ourselves or what we want in someone else and therefore unless you are some magical genius and are an expect in judging character, most of us will fall in love (or think we’ve fallen in love) with a complete A HOLE.
You will go through the phase of defending him to your friends and excusing his actions for one reason or another. Not only this, but convincing yourself that he will change. But he won’t.. because WHY LADIES AND GENTS?! He is a dickhead and he’s not going to change for you or anyone else. You will know when a boy has respect for you and honestly, take it from me, it gets BEYOND exhausting making excuses for a boy and WHEN it does eventually end, it’s pretty darn humiliating how stupid you looked having tried to convince everyone he was different.
You’re going to make mistakes…BUT fall in and out of love, break up, make up, have a one-night stand — EXPERIENCE IT ALL! Things won’t always work out, and yes..it’ll hurt, but you will learn and I promise you will be okay and become stronger as a result. Love in your twenties will never be the end of the world and your mistakes will only help you find the right person when the time comes.
So many people find the right love a lot later in their twenties, if in their twenties at all – do not ever think that the right person HAS to come along at college or university just because unrealistic films tell us so! After you come out of dating a dickhead, however long this might take, you learn that relationships aren’t supposed to be that difficult and that stressful. Not only that but you learn to never settle less than you deserve.
It’s Okay to Be Single
Having been single for a few months or years does not mean that you are going to be single for the rest of your life. Take the time to be single as time to embrace yourself, be selfish. If you can’t enjoy the time on your own and get rid of all the negative connotations of being single, you most likely aren’t ready for a relationship.
Be independent, be strong and be able to stand on your own two feet and make stupid decisions that don’t have to concern anyone else. It is so much more attractive and honestly when your life is on track and your happy and you’re yourself, THAT’S when someone comes along. THAT’S when the RIGHT person comes along because they’re able to see the real you. Think of finding someone as an ADDITION to your life.
Don’t waste your time by convincing yourself you like a particular person just because you think life is more interesting with a love interest. If you’re spending time thinking about someone else (that you probably don’t even really like!), you’ll miss out on fun times with your friends and doing things just because you love to do them.
Until next time,