Hellooo my dears,
My life is often like a Made in Chelsea episode that often I find myself giving advice to my friends on so many different situations (quite frequently via essays on Whatsapp). I thought I would share some of my wise words on break ups in the hopes in might find itself helpful to a couple of you (hopefully none of you will need this but just in case). ❤
As your first step to the road of recovery – telling someone is so important – especially someone you trust, whether that be someone in your family or your best friend. Often I get that it can be embarrassing but TRUST me when I say it’s not anything to be embarrassed about at ALL – and it definitely won’t be to someone who has your back! I also understand that so often it can be tempting to tell everyone on your Whatsapp list in a way that is angry in an attempt to turn them all against your ex – but this has always proven to not be the best way to go – especially if there’s a small chance you one day get back with them and you end up looking stupid.
YOU YOU YOU
I know it’s a lot easier said than done but this is the time to focus on yourself. Yes, you’ll be thinking about your ex everyday for a bit but go out and KEEP BUSY – and I promise you’ll stop thinking about them a lot quicker if you turn down all plans and just sit and sulk in your room. Honestly just force yourself to go out for a walk or go get your nails done.
Do NOT obsess over your ex on social media, or any other girl/boy you think they might be newly associated with. Do NOT focus on where you could have gone wrong or where they went wrong – take everything as lessons learnt for what you don’t want to do/have in future relationships. Don’t look to blame – do not blame yourself especially – as no one is perfect, just focus on where to go from here.
Change a Part of Your Routine
It is tooooo easy to be reminded of the old days and all those memories if you are still going to the same restaurants, gym or cafés etc. You don’t need to change your life entirely – but little changes are always good for you and it will stop you thinking about the past and how it’s changed. Make new memories and find new cool places to have coffee. It’ll make you feel like you’ve moved forward and lets you have a little more control in your life.
Don’t be a Memory Hoarder
Another way to stop being reminded of the past – DELETE IT OFF YOUR PHONE. I am the biggest memory hoarder and I have a bagillion photos and videos on my phone and it genuinely is a problem for me to delete them. But in a circumstance like this – it’s not healthy. Delete them off snapchat memories, camera roll.. and off your laptop and any other device I’m forgetting. Reading old texts and looking at photos from a holiday together is like re-opening a wound and will ALWAYS trigger buried feelings – even if it is comforting for a while.
SO MUCH LOVE TO YOU ALL ❤ talk to me if you ever every need anything ❤