DEALING WITH LONELINESS

Hellooo my beauties!!

I’m just going to start off by saying that loneliness is such a common thing – so don’t regard it as something purely in your head or something that’s silly because everyone goes through it. Of course there are different degrees of loneliness – you could be alone at home on a Friday night and feel lonely, or you could have this feeling lingering in you for weeks or months. It’s even common to feel lonely if you have a sea of people and friends surrounding you.

Although I used to feel this occasionally (being so far away from home etc.), I’m lucky enough that I don’t ever feel lonely now, even if I have nights or weekends in on my own. I do however, know a few friends that do – so hopefully this post might make someone feel a little better today 😌

When people do get lonely – it is so easy to result to laying in bed or on the sofa and perhaps binge eat – which don’t get me wrong – I do an awful lot of anyway but it’s important to step back and analyse whether this is really doing anything positive for you.

HELP SOMEONE

One way to help deal with feeling lonely is to help someone. Whether this be a small favour for a friend or even going that little step further to take time out and volunteer for a local charity or animal shelters/domestic violence shelters if you feel you’re getting lonely often. I always get a boost in my mood when I help someone else which ultimately results in their mood improving too!

GET OFF SOCIAL MEDIA

I’ve mentioned this in a previous blog post of mine but it is so so important the impact of social media and what it can do to your mindset. When you’re feeling alone or down, it helps so much to get off social media – especially Instagram. Although you could argue that social media is a quick way to get in contact with someone – ultimately (god I feel like I’m using that word a lot in this post) it can in fact isolate you more. When you’re in this headspace, being in contact with a friend online isn’t always intimate and isn’t emotional because so often it can feel forced in the way that you think any pointless conversation or social interaction will help, but if anything – it could potentially make you feel even lonelier.

GO OUTSIDE 

Don’t do what I do and binge eat on the sofa in the dark watching Riverdale. GO OUTSIDE and get some fresh air. Go outside and connect with people and be in the presence of people. Go for a nice little walk and breathe in and out and just be around nature and the sun. Research proves that this plays a huge role in combatting loneliness!

CALL A FRIEND

When I say call a friend.. I mean a genuine, real, got your back always kind of FRIEND. A friend you genuinely like and are happy in the presence of. Pick a friend who’s voice makes you happy to hear and a friend who you get excited to see. Making plans with them gives you something to look forward to and that always helps – although it’s in your hands to pick someone who will be there to help and be there to make you happy, not to force you to do things or a friend who will be too much for you to handle.

DOGGIESSS!!! 

I will never understand what humans have ever done to deserve dogs. It’s been said that playing with animals and dogs especially make you feel calm and make you feel loved and I for ONE can vouch for that heheh. If you don’t have your own dog – there are dogs EVERYWHERE! Go to an animal shelter or visit a park and honestly if you ask any dog owner to play with their dog – 99.99999% of the time, they’re not going to say no. It’s honestly not weird

FIND A HOBBY

I’m sure you’ve heard this point so often but trust me on this one, it helps. Finding something you’re passionate in and get excited about can so easily get you out of feeling alone. I’ve read a quote that even just reading a book requires so much more attention and thought than just watching your favourite show on Netflix and that goes a long way in helping you feel less lonely. There was a period of time I wanted a new hobby and  literally could not think of ONE hobby except for the standard horse riding, football etc. and honestly I just googled “list of hobbies” and there are hobbies that you didn’t even know were hobbies – like just so so so many things you could be spending your time doing.

I hope this post helps you or someone even a little – and know that if you ever needed someone to talk to, I’m always heree 🌹 I never ever want anyone to feel like they’re being annoying or they’re bothering me with their problems so don’t even think about feeling like that!!!

Until next time,

screen-shot-2017-02-12-at-15-56-16

 

22 Comments Add yours

  1. Beyoutiful says:

    Nice post girl! This def does make a bit better since I do get lonely at times. But, you are right it does feel better to get off of social media and just go outside or work on hobby. Blogging has def make me feel so much better and loved 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    1. helloitsjo says:

      aw thank you so much! you’re making me smile too much today girl!!! oh my goodness – another great idea, you’re so right, blogging has like the most beautiful community and just makes you feel so loved and supported! but yeah exactly like we said, social media I find never helps because it’s so easy to compare yourself and also see what everyone is up to and it makes you think even more!!!

      Liked by 1 person

      1. Beyoutiful says:

        yeah I’ve been spending a lot more time blogging rather than Facebook & other social media platforms. Aww I’m glad my comments make you happy and same here! Glad we got to become best friends already ❤

        Liked by 1 person

      2. helloitsjo says:

        hehehe so much love ❤❤❤

        Liked by 1 person

  2. these are great and thoughtful tips. Sometimes, I watch puppy and kitty videos. LOL

    Liked by 1 person

    1. helloitsjo says:

      omg puppy videos are THE BEST HAHA!!

      Like

  3. Natalie Vinh says:

    Lovely post, Jo! I definitely know the feeling…

    Liked by 1 person

    1. helloitsjo says:

      Awh no well I hope these help, I definitely do too! – thanks so much lovely!!

      Liked by 1 person

  4. world of happiness_x says:

    lovely post ❤ i agree, i go for walks to help me when i’m lonely and my dog helps me a lot!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. helloitsjo says:

      yay thank you so much I’m so glad you liked it – ahh I know right, what can’t dogs help with?! hahaha ❤ ❤

      Liked by 1 person

      1. world of happiness_x says:

        so true haha ❤

        Like

  5. xoJenny says:

    This post is full of wonderful advice and suggestions. It’s definitely tough battling loneliness yet it’s so inevitable but there are so many ways to cure it much of which you’ve shared with us. I know when I first moved to the city not knowing anyone really, there were times where I would just sit in my room and be like “wow this sucks” but luckily being in the city there was so much to explore so I found myself wandering and time passed real quick. It was also very comforting knowing I had friends and family that I could always call or contact at whatever time of day. A dog would’ve been the best idea though 😉 The dog fever in me still thinks I could use one! ha

    xo, JJ

    Liked by 1 person

    1. helloitsjo says:

      That was literally my position moving to London, I loved wondering around on my own and exploring a lot of the time and eventually it all got a lot smaller and it wasn’t as lonely a place! but yes 100% a dog would’ve been the best call 😉

      Liked by 1 person

  6. Mrinalini says:

    These are some excellent tips 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    1. helloitsjo says:

      awh yay I’m so glad you think so! 🙂

      Like

  7. brushyneedle says:

    PUPPIES! No way they couldn’t make you feel better! Lovely post x

    Liked by 1 person

    1. helloitsjo says:

      Sooooo true!!! hehe thank you lovely 🙂

      Liked by 1 person

  8. This is great! Thanks for sharing! I love that you included the puppies!! 😉 I love my fur babies!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. helloitsjo says:

      hehe they just make everything better don’t they!!!

      Liked by 1 person

  9. luimariablog says:

    I love this post! its really inspiring, and I totally agree that sometimes u just need to sort of push yourself a bit to combat feeling lonely 🙂 thanks for the tips 🙂 ❤ xx

    Liked by 2 people

    1. helloitsjo says:

      Aw yay that makes me so happy that you like it!! Thanks so much for the comment 🙂 You’re so right! ❤ ❤

      Liked by 1 person

      1. luimariablog says:

        haha anytime 🙂 ❤ xx

        Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s