This post is a little different so bare with me!! I was reading a BBC article today on a 19 year old victim recently – who was drunk and raped in Manchester. I had so many thoughts reading this and thought I would just do a quick little rant of my views surrounding this!
This particular case in Manchester led to controversy as the judge stated that women’s drunken behaviour was putting them at risk. Not only this, but women should be careful and weary of the way they behave.
My first reaction was to be angry because in my mind, rape is never the victim’s fault. A person could be lying naked on the floor, or in someone’s bed or be in a state of unconsciousness – it does not give anyone the right to rape or sexual assault. Both women and men should be free to behave however they want to without fear of being sexually assaulted.
There was an instance a couple years ago that caused major outrage – when Miss USA, Mia Sanchez, put forward her idea that the way to stop rape and sexual assault in colleges was to teach women to defend and protect themselves. It was argued that giving women ‘rape prevention help’ was condoning rape as otherwise – we would teach men not to rape.
On the other hand, we have to be realistic. This is the world we live in and perhaps people, especially women, need to be careful and need to be aware of the dangers and the risks of getting themselves drunk. As much as we’d like to say that women and men should be free to behave how they like when having fun – there are awful people out there and we can only do so much to stop people from sexually assaulting.
Recently I have been reading a book by Jaclyn Friendman called “Yes Means Yes: Vision of Female Sexual Power and a World Without Rape” which talks all about the idea I touched on previously. The law and concept should not be ‘No means no’ because so often the victim is not in a state to say no – and ergo; yes means yes. Just because the victim is dressed in a certain way; just because they may be drunk; just because they didn’t say anything or fight back; just because you like each other – that doesn’t mean yes – ONLY YES MEANS YES!
The ‘Yes Means Yes’ campaign has literally become one of my favourite movements that have mainly been focussing on sexual assault on campuses – and I couldn’t be happier to see it instated more and more across America because I think it’s too important.
SERIOUS POST OVER!! Let me know what your thoughts are, I’d be so interested to read them! Have a lovely daayy!! xxxx