I’m going to break it to you now that there are a lot of things people don’t tell you about living on your own. Especially when you’re 20 and you have not one clue as to what you’re doing. My bed sheets and throw all started off white and now they’re pink, which isn’t the worst thing but also not what I had meant for..
Here are a few things I’ve learnt having lived on my own and bare in mind I’m still getting the hang of everything so no judgements!!
- Just because you have a shower and you’re all clean, does not mean your shower is clean. The shower may look clean, and so will your sink and toilet and even your bath mat but they’re not. It’s so easy to just use the bathroom and forget that it’s probably the most disgusting thing with bacteria spreading constantly. I would always do my laundry as well and forget to include my bath mat and tea towels and it’s just the most stressful thing. The easiest way I handle the cleanness of my bathroom now is to stock up on bathroom surface anti-bacterial wipes and every few days or week, give everything a wipe down and then dispose of the wipes.
2. The fridge doesn’t stock itself. Although living at home it may have seemed that the fridge is some magical food box in which nothing ever went out of date and was just fully stocked all the time, that’s not the case when you’re on your own. That box of two week old leftovers in the back..yep.. that’s mine.. It’s so easy for things to go out of date when you’re living on your own, because it’s so difficult to eat it all in time! Which is why I have now got the hang of buying my meals every few days as opposed to once a week and this allows for me to know what I want to eat and when I’ll be able to eat it and nothing goes to waste. Although when there’s nothing left and you haven’t had time to go and shop, you start to become very creative with the meals you end up making..
3. Doctor’s appointments have to be made myself. You know you’re an adult when any doctor appointments or dentist appointments have to be made by yourself. Although having said this I literally now only go when I’m on death’s door as opposed to when I was home and mum would make me an appointment if I coughed.
4. Eating healthy and living a healthy lifestyle is a literal miracle. I can barely afford food as it is, or be able to cook a nice meal for myself, let alone buying organic foods and cooking new meals and recipes. I don’t have the time or money to be too picky about what I eat. Although having said this, I do try my best to set aside one night a week to cook a nice, healthy meal and a couple nights to go to the gym and it makes it a lot easier when I have evenings planned out with meal plans etc.
5. Bins take so long to fill up that your flat will smell. I’ve found the easiest way to solve this problem is to buy smaller bins. That way they need to be taken out more often in smaller rubbish bags as opposed to still having a massive bin in the kitchen that still comprises of what was left of my Chinese takeaway two weeks before.
6. YES all that hair in the drain is YOURS. I don’t know how normal this is, but I find myself every week gagging, as I pull out chunks of hair in my shower drain so that it doesn’t smell or clog. I’m surprised I’m not bald at this rate but if you have this problem, there are little plastic sieve sort of things you can buy to keep over your drain to stop anything but water going through, which can I just say is a must buy.
A part from all these things, I really do love living on my own. Everything is more fun and just better in general not wearing any trousers and an ugly oversized hoodie, with your hair up in a bun and no make-up on.
I live in one flat for no more than a year at a time as I’m constantly moving for uni and jobs etc. so I’ve found it is so important to ensure wherever you do try make your home, that you make it a positive space that’s all about you. It’s so nice to hang up photos of you and your friends and pretty fairy lights. Quotes and dreams for the future are so lovely and motivational to hang up on walls, they just make your space so much more cosy. I’m obsessed with beautiful candles and little things like bronze make-up brush holders right now. It’s so crucial making your space somewhere you love and somewhere you’re happy spending time in. Living on your own makes you get to know yourself and it makes you learn so much in such a short space of time. I find myself never getting lonely as I’ve learnt there’s so many ways to entertain myself like binge watching The Vampire Diaries and The Bachelor and constantly eating foods I would definitely get judged for. It even makes the times you spend with friends so much more fun and special because you look forward to it so much, more so than usual!
Let me know what you think if you live on your own too or if it’s something you’d like to do?!